How to Keep Sex Exciting When Trying to Conceive






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One of the things that bogs most couples down while they are trying to conceive is the simple fact that once you start trying to get pregnant, sex just isn’t as fun anymore.


Gone are the spontaneous days of love-making, replaced by ovulation calendars and positions designed to “increase your chances of conceiving”. So, what can you do to put the fun back into sex while you are trying to conceive? Read on for some helpful hints.

1. Switch Things Up

If you are used to having ho-hum, regular sex, that is a surefire way to take the spark out of it. Make sure to switch things up as much as possible to keep sex from getting boring. True, you may have to have sex on your ovulation days, but other than that, switch things up as much as you can.


If you normally have sex at night, have sex in the morning. If you normally have sex in bed, have sex on the couch, in the shower, wherever. Switch things up as much as you can, and really try to spice things up and keep it interesting.

2. Wait It Out

Another great way to make sex more enjoyable when you are trying to get pregnant: waiting it out. Ever heard the old saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder”? That applies perfectly to this case!


Make it a point to only have sex on your ovulation days. By avoiding sex during the other days of the month, you and your partner will want it more when it is actually time. Make sex something to look forward to by only doing it on the right days.

3. Connect Without Sex

If you and your partner only have sex on ovulation day, and don’t do anything to connect on other days, it might start to feel like you or your partner are simply a “baby machine” instead of an actual person. Make sure to connect with your partner outside of sex on the other days.


Whether it be going out on a date, giving each other a massage, showering together, or simply staying up late and talking, make sure to find a way to connect with your partner every day, on some level.

4. Keep It Quiet

Even if both of you know that you are going to be having sex on ovulation day, that doesn’t mean that you have to announce it. Keep the words “baby”, “baby dance”, “ovulation” and other similar words out of your vocabulary.


Even if you are having “baby making sex” on ovulation day, don’t treat it as such. Treat it as a romantic interlude with your partner, and that will go a long way towards putting the spice and the romance back into your life.

Dr. Lynette Weiss, MD

Dr. Lynette Weiss is ConceiveEasy's Senior Physician and Scientific Director. She is certified in Obstetrics and Gynecology by the American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology and is a fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology.